Personal Reflections

I’m a Bad Person Because I Don’t Like Looking at Naked Strangers?!?

May 16, 2010 at 3:57 am (Anxiety, Real Life Stuff, Sadness)

So one of my friends whom I used to be really close with, but have drifted apart from over the last year, is having her 21st birthday party in roughly a month.

She sent all of us a message about it on Facebook. Unfortunately, she also invited another girl whom I had a falling out with and refuse to speak to now because of it. The three of us were all best friends for quite a few years until recently. Still, while seeing this other girl at her party would have been uncomfortable and awkward, it wouldn’t have stopped me from going.

What DID stop me from accepting the invitation was the location… she’s having her birthday party at a male strip club. Errrrmmmm… no thank you.

As most of you know, while my Sims may get up to all kinds of sordid and promiscuous affairs, I myself hold very conservative views about a lot of things (not all, but a lot). This happens to be one of those things I have a very conservative view about. I just think that sex and/or sexually-related displays should be kept between two grown adults who love each other very deeply and things like strip clubs, pornography, swingers’ bars, prostitution and other such things cheapen the act of sex and objectify the human body.

So I told my mother I don’t feel comfortable going to a strip club and so will choose to politely decline my friend’s invitation. Ironically enough, my mother got angry with me for being so prudish, apparently. She said that strip clubs aren’t a big deal and that I need to get a life and get out more. Uh… isn’t this conversation a little backwards? Shouldn’t the teenage daughter be yelling at her mom for not letting her go to a strip club?

So… am I a bad person for not enjoying looking at naked strangers? I don’t think so. I don’t know when it became a bad thing to think that sex/sexually-related activities is something special and private that wasn’t meant to be shared outside of a committed relationship between two grown adults who love each other.

I didn’t put down my friend for wanting to go. I didn’t lecture her about my conservative views. I didn’t say anything other than “Well, that’s not really somewhere I’m comfortable going, so I’m going to have to decline the invitation, but maybe we can get together some other time and have lunch or something for your birthday.” Pleasant enough, right? I think so.

So… if I don’t put down people with differing views, if I don’t lecture them about how my views are “right” and theirs are “wrong”, if I recognize the fact that my views aren’t technically right or wrong and purely beliefs that I’ve developed because they make me feel comfortable and safe… why am I a prude or some kind of bad person for having them?

It’s not wrong to not enjoy that kind of atmosphere.

Of course, if by chance, I was all “Oh yeah, let’s go for it! I love strip clubs!”, I’d most surely be labelled as a slut. It’s so frustrating. Why are women ridiculed for protecting their virginity, then called a whore once she does decide to give it away to someone?

Ah well… that’s an entirely different topic and I’ve begun to ramble, so I’ll end this here.

I am NOT a prude or a bad person just because I don’t like looking at naked strangers!